Want To Change? Be Transparent, Vulnerable and Authentic

DeathCare Practitioners are chained to a stumbling block that obstructs  the adaptability and agility that today’s markets demand…not request, demand! It’s called EGO.  And that ego is manifested in the maintenance of a self-styled persona that does not allow for the display of any imperfection.

Unfortunately, or fortunately, the New Normal of society in the developed world will no longer accept anything less than transparency and authenticity.  Oddly, learn to be those things and it is incredibly liberating.  Better, because your learning ability is now open, your adaptability and agility skyrocket…and people like you more besides.

My motto:  Esse Quam Videri…Latin for–“To Be Rather Than To Seem”

The beliefs we are using to guide us are often a tacit thing — something we can’t see because we are so close to it that we actually can’t see it as a “thing”; it has become something “true”, an assumption that frames every decision. Chris Argyris wrote in 1992 that a major impediment to learning is that most organizations “store and use” information in tacit, versus explicit, forms.I’ve come to see that this is true for both personal and organizations situations. And without being able to name the thing, you can’t change the thing. But by naming it, any of us can and will see it as something we can question and only then can we unlearn it. When I unlearn that “perfection must rule on big stages”, I will return to connecting deeply. This carries a risk of course: It may turn out that I’m less “appropriate” in future talks, and my imperfections and flaws may not resonate. Yet, I have to trust — as all people need to — that they can and will learn and adjust and be flexible enough to adapt to ever-changing conditions.

If you’re learning to use calculus or to fly an airplane, you don’t want to have to start from scratch; you want to learn from others and follow the road already paved. But most of life is about learning to be ourselves, and to “learn to be” is about figuring out what we take as a truth — those ways we just “know”. To unlearn, we need to get good at seeing and naming those ways. Unlearning is harder than learning, but it’s crucial to do … because innovation and creativity are rarely about doing more of the same….More at What I Learned from My TED Talk – Nilofer Merchant – Harvard